Its happened a bit before, but this time, its really happening.
On the way to drop my oldest off at Karate, somehow my third daughter (she’s adopted), brought up that I fed the baby through my tummy (she’s three, I’m not too worried about being technical!). She then proclaimed that she ate from mommy’s tummy too! My oldest, talkative one that she is, tried to jump in and correct her immediately. But I stopped her. This is something I need to do.
I turned to her as best as I could (I happened to be at a stop light, thankfully) and said “Guess what? You grew in your Aunt’s tummy and she fed you! And then your Aunt told mommy that she could keep you forever and ever! And mommy fed you with a bottle, just like we feed the baby with a bottle!”
She grinned broadly. I think that connection of mom-feeds-the-baby-with-a-bottle-and-that’s-how-she-fed-me really made her happy about the whole story. She is no different from her sisters and brothers!
I know this same conversation will come up again. And it has sorta happened before. But this is the first time I really saw her thinking about it and internalizing it.
All this wondering how we would tell her, how it would happen, would she deal with it well? And it turns out that its really not so big of a deal. At least not yet. And I hope it stays that way.