Family Home Evening- What is the Role of a Child?

During the women’s session of General Conference a few weeks ago it was brought up that this year marks 20 years since the The Family- A Proclamation to the World was given to us.  Can you believe it has been that long?  Along the same theme, Sister Burton and Elder Perry talked about the family during the Saturday Sessions of Conference.

FHERolesaI chose to create a Family Home Evening Lesson surrounding this theme, but I realize that most people already know what the Family Proclamation says so I wanted to take a different approach.  One thing that the Proclamation lacks is the specifics of a Child’s role in the family.  If a child doesn’t know what their role is, how are they supposed to act? Parents know their role and are taught their role on a regular basis.  Lets do our children a favor and teach them exactly what their role is. (I wrote their roles based on what the Proclamation says a parent is supposed to teach.)

What is the Role of a Child in the Family?

Goal: To help children understand their role in the family.

Sister Oscarson, Sister Burton and Elder Perry all spoke on the Family’s role in the Plan of Salvation during the Spring 2015 General Conference.  They encouraged families to know their roles.

You can find these talks at:

Sister Oscarson:

Sister Burton:

Elder Perry:

You can find a copy of The Family: A Proclamation to the World here :



Role Cards (see attached)

Role Mats (see attached)

Cut out the mats and place them on a table.  Cut out the role cards, shuffle and put in a stack.  Each person in turn can draw a card and decide either alone or with the help of the family whose role mat the card should be placed on.  The role cards that are required of both Mother and Father are duplicated.

This part of the game will require some discussion as family roles are different depending on needs.  The “cheat sheet” that is included shows where each role belongs according to the proclamation.

As each card is drawn, use the opportunity to discuss how your family views the role and its importance in your life.

Once all the cards are drawn and sorted, take the opportunity to look at the differences between the parent’s roles and the child’s roles.  Mother and Father have cards that require they TEACH the children and the only roles a child has is to LEARN.  Emphasize that in a family setting, children are there to LEARN.


In the Primary Song “The Family is of God”, we are reminded what Heavenly Father wants for each of our families.

“Our Father has a family. It’s Me! It’s you, all others too: we are His children.

He sent each one of us to earth, through birth to live and learn here in families.

God gave us families to help us become what He wants us to be.

This is how He shares His love, for the family is of God.”

Heavenly Father wants our family to help each other to learn and become what he wants us to be.

In the front of the Faith in God award booklets, the First Presidency has issued this letter:

“You are a child of God. He is your Heavenly Father. He loves you and cares about you. He wants you to have faith in Him and pray to Him often—anytime, anywhere…

You are now preparing for new opportunities in your life. Use these years to develop the qualities that will help you be a righteous young woman [or young man].

We encourage you to learn and live the gospel, serve others, and use the talents Heavenly Father has given you to learn and do many good things.” (italics added)

Faith in God for Girls, (2003), 1

Challenge your children to remember their roles in the family. If appropriate you can add in a family council on chores or accomplishing homework.  If necessary, refer to the lesson throughout the week to help your children remember their role in the family.

For the Role Cards and Role Mats, download this link: What is the Role of a Child in the Family

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